Taking the ‘I’ out of your emails

Want to create a deep, personal connection with your email readers? One that nurtures them and draws them into your world? In this post you’ll learn 3 things you can do to help your emails bridge that gap between you and your subscriber.

Your email readers can potentially be the core of your thriving community of fans – if you are able to connect with them on a deep and meaningful level. Here’s how to make sure that you are doing everything you can to make that personal connection with each and every one of your email subscribers.

1. Stop saying “I” in your emails

In order to engage your reader you have to make them feel as if your email is all about THEM. Yes, your readers like you and they want to learn more about you, but what they really want to know is what’s in it for them. If you are filling your emails with ‘I’s – as in,

I am doing this…Stop using "I" in your emails

I have this for you…

I want you to see this…

I think you’ll love this…

Well, all of those ‘I’s are going to turn off your reader.

It’s not that you shouldn’t ever use the word ‘I’ in your emails – you should! But think about your real life conversations. How much do you love it when the person you are talking to is saying, “I…, I…, I…, I…” ? Not much I bet. You don’t feel involved. It becomes one-sided. You lose interest.

You don’t want that to happen with your emails.  So, use the word “I” in moderation!

2. Speak directly to your reader

This is the most powerful thing you can do to grow that personal relationship with each individual reader. Yes, your reader probably knows that she is a part of a larger group of people getting the same email, but you don’t have to remind her of that by saying things like, “You guys” or “You all” or “I wanted to make sure you girls all saw this”.

Write your emails as if you are speaking directly to one person. Again, think about your real-life conversations. When it is just you and another person talking, you don’t talk to them in the plural, right? Probably not. So, don’t do it here either.

If you have trouble writing your emails so that they seem personal, try this: Just imagine your ideal client or customer and write the email as if you were talking to that person. The difference is amazing! People like a direct connection. They don’t like feeling as if they are just a nameless part of a crowd.

3. Use personalization

You can take that direct connection one step further by personalizing your emails. Call your reader by name, (in an appropriate way and at the appropriate times), and they can’t help but to feel that you are speaking directly to them. This is easy to do with most email providers. You simply drop a tiny piece of code into your email where you want your reader’s name to appear, and when you send the email, your email provider replaces that code with your reader’s name.

Calling someone by name is a powerful and quick way to create that connection you are trying to make.

The key to using personalization successfully is to use it in moderation. Go back to those real-life conversations. You might use someone’s name at the start of a conversation, but you probably don’t keep using it again and again.

Keep it personal

Email is hands down the best way to nurture your community and grow your business, and it works best if you keep it personal, keep if feeling as if you are having a private conversation with your reader. The tips I’ve shared today will help you do just that! Of course, there are a lot of other pieces to your marketing pie, so…

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Bob-headshot-240x300Bob Crawford is a holistic business coach, helping lightworkers, healers, and other spiritual entrepreneurs learn how to attract more clients and make more money, while still remaining authentic and heart-centered. “Because growing your practice should be as fun and rewarding as the work your were called to do!”


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One Comment

  1. I’m smiling as I write this comment, Bob, because I sent out my email to my subscribers a short while back and the first sentence has not one, but 3 ‘I’s – although it is relevant because I had been talking about a new free email course for the last few weeks and they knew I was going to announce it. It’s conversational so perhaps I haven’t made a big boo boo? The rest of the message is more You focused.

    This is an aberration from my normal emails and I agree with you. When I receive emails full of I, my eyes glaze over and the rest of the email doesn’t get read.

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